Now that all my ladies are here: stop.
Stop clicking on articles like this and listening to some 38 year old man waffle about how you can change yourself to become perfect; there is no such thing as “the perfect woman”!
For centuries there have been standards that women have been pressured to meet. You can’t be too independent. You can’t be too skinny but you certainly can’t be big. You should get married and have kids. The truth is though; these are just standards imposed on us by society. We don’t actually have to meet them to be a woman. Not meeting the standards of others doesn’t make you any less of a woman. These stereotypes and standards are harmful. We as a society need to stop expecting women to be “perfect”. Every single person is unique.
Historically women have always been expected to behave and look a certain way and although we have improved in equal rights for women as a society, we have somehow missed out on tackling these expectations. Comparing yourself to society’s standards can be extremely detrimental to your mental health and, in turn, your physical health. Women need to feel safe to be themselves as there is truly no such thing as the “perfect woman”. We need to drop these expectations.
This is not going to be a short fight though. We will need to work for years to change people's closed-minded ideas of what it means to be a woman. You don't need to have a big platform or lots of money to do this though. Even simple things such as women supporting other women, not shaming others for their choices and not judging people on their appearance/comparing women to other women can help. I hope that celebrities can become more aware of what they post too. Media can warp people's views of what a woman realistically looks and acts like. If you can, I strongly recommend making sure that women you know realise that they are perfect the way they are. We need to tackle the problem at a smaller scale before we can ever even make a dent in the bigger issues that women face daily.