Entering your twenties is one of the most exciting milestones of your life, you’re young, you’re beautiful, you’re active and this is your time to shine. But with everything going on, why do we feel like we’re wasting them?
By “with everything going on” I mean the pandemic, the economic crisis in many countries and social pressure. When I was a young girl, I always imagined myself being flawless, getting a job, having a solid group of friends, an apartment and a boyfriend by the age of 21, so just basically being a mixture of Andy Sachs, Carrie Bradshaw, and Jocelyn Bennet which a pinch of delusion. Yet, I turn 20 in a couple of months, and I’m nothing like what I imagined I would be. Is this only the start? Am I being socially pressured, to have my whole life figured out at 20?
I often see people, early in their 20’s living the life that I wanted, yet I always remind myself to be patient because I know that I’ll get there, but I can’t help but feel behind and late, although I haven’t even started yet! Seeing people accomplish so much, can be at the same time motivating and discouraging. I watch these videos and they make me want to get up and get my whole life together, other days I just sit there and watch them, just silently wishing I was in their place. I tend to forget to remind myself that these 60 sec videos are glimpses of the days people want to show us, but I can’t help but feel like a do-nothing.
Maybe social media has created this illusion of success at such a young age, and not being productive and busy all day, means that you’re lazy and behind in life, when now is the time to make mistakes, learn from them and simply discover yourself.
The pandemic is another issue to consider; 2 years ago, you could easily travel, explore, apply anywhere in the world, form new connections and just get your way around stuff, we’re now just limited to our screens and online applications, which makes me feel like I’m being robbed from my “roaring” twenties, and I’m just stuck with what I have because of a global pandemic, what I’m saying may seem selfish, but you get it right?
These are my “golden” years, I should be out, exploring, having fun, experimenting, and just effortlessly living my life. Yet I’m stuck home, unmotivated, impatiently imagining my life post covid, while days are passing by.
We have to remind ourselves, that entering our twenties is stressful yet thrilling, and with everything going on , we should try to be easier on ourselves, since we can’t control the events around us and we’re just trying our best. Everyone blooms and evolves in their own way at their own pace, so be nice to yourself, after all, comparison is truly the thief of joy. Always remember that you’re not alone, and the pandemic and social pressure is hitting everyone.